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Selfish Hospitality

Discover 'Selfish Hospitality' – A Memoir for the Heart of Hospitality

Step inside the world of Demetri Gregorakis, a seasoned restaurant general manager, as he reveals the transformative power of hospitality. In 'Selfish Hospitality,' Demetri shares heartfelt stories and hard-earned wisdom from over two decades in the industry, challenging what it truly means to serve others. More than just a memoir, this is a manifesto for anyone who’s ever found family, purpose, or identity in making others feel at home.

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About Selfish Hospitality

Demetri Gregorakis has spent over 20 years in restaurants—from his first role in Alonissos, Greece, to owner of Blackbird Kitchen+Bar, to General Manager at The Rind and Jayna Gyro, and consulting member of countless top-rated restaurants and 3rd spaces in Sacramento, California, including Omakase Por Favor in 2024.

But this book isn't really about restaurants.

It's about a four-year-old boy who learned that being himself was dangerous—and spent decades mastering the art of becoming whoever a room needed him to be. It's about transforming shame into superpower, trauma into craft, and the need to belong into the ability to help others feel like they belong.

Born to Greek immigrant parents in Sacramento, Demetri grew up straddling worlds: the warmth of Mediterranean family gatherings and the loneliness of being different. He found his first teachers in his time spent summering in Greece as a young boy, his first stage in childhood games with his cousins, and his first heartbreak.

Today, he trains the next generation of hospitality professionals with one simple philosophy: The more you give, the more you get.

Selfish Hospitality is his first book.

This book is for you if:

  • You've ever cried in a walk-in cooler and gone back out smiling
  • You've found family in the chaos of a Saturday night rush
  • You've wondered why you care so much about strangers' happiness
  • You've felt invisible in your own life—except when you're working
  • You believe that how we treat people matters more than what we serve them
  • You're ready to stop apologizing for loving work that others dismiss

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